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Can We “Make” Ourselves Happy?


Is being happy dependent on getting what we want?

Can we actually be happy about situations when we don’t get what we want?

Even though this blog covers things of interest to Readers, Writers, and Publishers, this post should have value for nearly anyone.

I’ve dealt with writers being unhappy in the previous post, Must Writers Suffer Melancholy, Anguish, and Depression?, and the video in that post could certainly help anyone get more inspired about facing life’s challenges

What does it really mean to be happy when we get what we don’t want?

Even more to the point, what does “Being Happy” really mean?

Shawn Achor was Head Teaching Fellow for Positive Psychology, one of the most popular courses at Harvard; and, he’s written the book, The Happiness Advantage. You’ll see more of him soon

Harvard psychologist, Dan Gilbert, has written the book, Stumbling On Happiness, and you’ll soon see more of him, too :-)

While both Shawn and Dan have remarkable ideas about happiness, how it can be gained, and why it’s crucial to a productive life, there’s a book from the Great Depression called Think And Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill.

This book is still a best-seller and, though the title sounds like it’s a manual on amassing money, it contains solid, comprehensive principles on maintaining one’s Happiness. You can download Think And Grow Rich free at this link

So, if you don’t have time to read the books of these three gentlemen, you can, at least, receive some remarkable insights about Happiness by watching the videos below—first, Shawn Achor, then, Dan Gilbert:


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6 responses to “Can We “Make” Ourselves Happy?

  1. Simone Benedict March 5, 2012 at 6:00 pm

    I kind of feel the first question is: Do you want to be happy? Implied by you here, I can see. My personal opinion is some folks secretely say, “No” and give a sinister laugh. I’m often wrong though.

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    • Alexander M Zoltai March 5, 2012 at 6:32 pm

      Simone,

      Wondering if you watched the videos?

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      • Simone Benedict March 5, 2012 at 7:33 pm

        I do so want to Alexander. Unfortunately, the tornado siren that sits right outside my window has been going off for 45 min. We don’t have a tornado. The siren is stuck. So no worries. I’m happy and I will watch them once the guy with the key turns the blasted blasting thing off… I do want to hear while watching :-)

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        • Alexander M Zoltai March 5, 2012 at 7:37 pm

          Whoot!!!

          Oops

          I hope that shout didn’t add to the cacophony of the tornado siren

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  2. Jane Watson March 8, 2012 at 1:33 pm

    I loved Shawn Achor, I shall look for his book. David Gilbert was a blast, loved him too. He really showed how we can choose our own happiness :)
    I think these videos are really relevant in a blog about writing because I do believe that many writers flounder because they sink into a morass of depression about their work when this is not warranted, valid or necessary. They look for external clues as to whether they are ‘successful’ as writers, when really this is not what is important, what is important is the joy of their work and the process involved in writing it produces. They can choose to experience this joy. Funnily enough readers often feel this too and often love the work of those writers who focus on that inner journey :)

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    • Alexander M Zoltai March 8, 2012 at 3:54 pm

      Jane,

      What you say is so pertinent and so well said I must repeat it:

      “…I do believe that many writers flounder because they sink into a morass of depression about their work when this is not warranted, valid or necessary. They look for external clues as to whether they are ‘successful’ as writers, when really this is not what is important, what is important is the joy of their work and the process involved in writing it produces. They can choose to experience this joy. Funnily enough readers often feel this too and often love the work of those writers who focus on that inner journey :)”

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